There is a part of me that really enjoys the "newness" of a new relationship. After having discussions on this topic with some of my friend's recently, I know that I am not alone in some of my feelings. There are so many little things that can get in the way at the start of a relationship. And sometimes, all parties are surprised by the fact that something that started with little or no expectations ends up being something more that either one ever expected.

Perhaps it is the excitement and then anticipation of things unexplored. Maybe, it is the potential for so much. Possibly it is because you both still have these crazy ideas and thoughts about what the other person (and yourself) wants out of the relationship. Perchance it is because there are so many different things that you do not know about one another and are looking forward to finding out. Personally, I cannot tell you why I enjoy things as much as I do, but for me, there is always some level of fear and apprehension. There are also many things that I do not enjoy about starting a new relationship. I know personally there are so many times that I feel totally insecure and worry about someone's reaction to well - everything.

But, with that said we know that we all have two choices - we can either allow these obsessive thoughts control us, or we can do (what I try to do) - nothing at all.

I just try to control my thoughts and feeling to the outside world - but inside my head I let them run wild until I think that they may be making me crazy and then I go and have a good dose of reality - and then thankfully for everyone, but most especially myself I am able to go on like there is nothing wrong - because you know what - neurotic behavior is just really not attractive to most people in the general population. Whenever we are faced with a new relationship in life there are always things that can be deal breakers. Personally know what your deal breakers are, and let all parties involved know what they are. My advice to you all on this topic - just do not hand them a list, ask them to sign and initial each section, and then return it to them - they will most likely turn and run. Thankfully, I have never done this but someone I know basically did this and does this and they (for some odd reason) are having problems settling down…I'll pause here and we can all scratch our heads and wonder why.

But in any case, sometimes, we all just need to remember to sit back and just allow things to progress at their own pace- which admittedly at times - can be just this side of hell, but a little friendly reminder never hurt anyone.

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