Sorry about the lack of posts in the past two weeks, but things have been a bit crazy, but you can read about it here in detail. Okay, so this week’s topic stems from an event that happened last week; in the middle of running two households, taking care of a dog and two cats, a house break in, and a flooded kitchen I got a phone call. A very strange phone call. One that has lead me to believe that there should be an early warning system. Who called, you are probably asking yourself at this point, it was an ex-boyfriend of mine. To make it worse he wanted to meet up to chat about some things. Now this sounded off a few alarm bells in my head as we have not talked for a long while and personally I really had no desire to meet up with him, but I did agree. Why you ask, well it seems every time he has wanted to talk it was just to let me know what was going on with him or to let me know some info before it became public and as it may have some ramifications on my life, he was nice enough to let me know before I found out through the grape vine.
Needless to say, things did not go well...it seems that a friend of mine lives across the street from him, and he saw me the weekend before dropping off / picking this friend up. And yes, it was a few times, but please, what am I going to do? Ask my friend to move? I think not. It seems paranoia has gotten the best of my ex. He was worried that I was hanging out looking for him. Okay other than people just needing to calm down, people also need to remember a few things when a relationship ends. After talking to a few (okay, a lot of) people it seems that the following rules pretty much apply to any relationship that ends one way or another:
1.Yes, you will be thought of by the other person for years to come. It
will be both good and bad.
2.Yes, it is not uncommon when something happens, you go somewhere, or
when you do something that you did with the other - you will think of that
person.
3.Yes, you will be talked about at some point or another
4.Yes, if you live in the same area, you may run in to or see the other
every once in awhile. Get over it or move away if you don’t like
it.
5.Yes, life does move on. Eventually. Even if you think that it never
will. I promise! (You can ask pretty much anyone, I keep my
promises!)
Personally, I am thinking of asking the next guy I date seriously if he’ll be willing to move far, far, far away if we break up at some point - maybe I’ll start a fund to buy a desert island where all of the ex’s can be shipped off at the end of a relationship - any one interested in helping me out?
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